Writer’s Block

It usually goes something like this. I’ll discover a show and then I’ll watch TV all day and all weekend. Sometimes I’ll spend an entire day on the phone talking or texting. Some days are spent just reading. Other times, I spend the whole day online reading article after article.

Some weekends I am too guilty to just laze about, so I will choose to do a chore I have been avoiding — like cleaning the oven. I’ll tell myself that it is important to have a clean oven. But while I’m cleaning the oven, I will be defiantly justifying my actions to myself the whole time. I won’t get to experience the satisfaction of having a clean oven, because I will know that the reason I cleaned the oven is because I was just avoiding writing.

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Reasons I Shouldn’t Quit My Job

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Sometimes I feel bad that I am not jumping up and down with excitement about my job.

Ever since I came across this article, I have read it over and over again. The writer lists nine reasons to quit your job.

The essence of the article is that life is too short to be miserable.

I can’t say that every item on the list applies to me. I would be exaggerating if I said I was completely unhappy with my job.

But number seven, having no excitement at all about going to work, is the reason this article resonates with me as much as it does.

Although my job is not lots of fun, my boss is not terrible, and I don’t hate my co-workers.

I can’t help but put myself in the shoes of a manager or someone in a leadership role when I think of my personal complaints about my current work situation.

I don’t know that I would be interested in the complaints of an employee like me.

I am bored of doing what I was hired to do. But there is no opportunity for growth in the department that I work in.

If I were the leader of an organization or someone’s manager, I might be more interested in the employee that felt discouraged about their input being ignored.

There may be a fix for that; we could have a meeting to discuss it, I would offer them training that might allow them to be better at their role.

If I had an employee, that felt insulted or undermined because their manager berated or criticized them publicly,  their manager could receive sensitivity training.

I don’t know what I would say to me, though. I couldn’t approach my boss and say that my assigned tasks do not enthuse me.

I guess the truth is that I could if I wanted to.

Lately, there are more days when all I can think about is quitting time than days when I can just focus on work and what I have to do.

There will always be a reason to leave any situation, but there are also reasons why you should keep your job while pursuing your passion or your dream job.

I’ve been practicing being grateful, and so I focus on what I do like about my job.

Three reasons not to quit

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Unsolicited Advice

The other day I was going to lunch and a colleague asked me what I was going to eat. I told her that I was gonna use my hour to get a manicure. She said in a high condescending voice with a fake smile on her face, “ Oh how nice! I hope that when you have kids that you still find time to take care of yourself.”   Oh please. You don’t hope nothing nice for me, was my first thought. “Haha, I hope so too”, was what I said.

I am familiar with this sort of interaction. You probably are too. Unsolicited advice. I got a lot of it when I was young, and I still get it now.

When I was young, I was the advice rejector. I was determined to live my life my way. After all, all the other people before me got to live their lives and make their own mistakes.

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On Getting Fired

I’ve had more jobs than I can count over the years. I’ve been “laid off” or fired from many of them.

Even when I absolutely loathed and despised my job, the moment of actually getting fired is never fun and it’s never convenient. One time I was laid off a week before Thanksgiving. That layoff was the most traumatic and ego damaging experience of them all.

I had just moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) that past April, and we were going to host Thanksgiving together for the first time. I was dumbfounded when I was told I was being let go. I was angry and resentful and I didn’t see it coming. Looking back, I can admit that I got myself fired from that job and from all the prior ones that ended the same way.

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How focusing on the positive can improve your bad mood

I was in a bad mood. A terrible mood.
 
I have a confession; when I am in a bad mood, I am not the most pleasant person. I don’t want to interact with people. In fact, smiling is something I have to force myself to do. If you are my neighbor or if you are someone that sees me every day and you catch me at the wrong time, you might think I am not the nicest person. You might think, I saw her go through the back door yesterday instead of the front, to avoid me. Or, she didn’t hold the elevator door for me yesterday.
 
If that is the case, please forgive me. I promise, it’s not you, it’s me. I struggle with being pleasant when I’m not feeling it

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