I was in a bad mood. A terrible mood.
I have a confession; when I am in a bad mood, I am not the most pleasant person. I don’t want to interact with people. In fact, smiling is something I have to force myself to do. If you are my neighbor or if you are someone that sees me every day and you catch me at the wrong time, you might think I am not the nicest person. You might think, I saw her go through the back door yesterday instead of the front, to avoid me. Or, she didn’t hold the elevator door for me yesterday.
If that is the case, please forgive me. I promise, it’s not you, it’s me. I struggle with being pleasant when I’m not feeling it
But, I like myself and the way I feel better when I am friendly. I prefer being around people who are polite. We should all be polite in public. It makes tough situations like being on the train in the morning or waiting in line for coffee easier for everyone. Being pleasant at work is a good idea. I try to do my part to contribute to a friendly environment, and that makes the day more comfortable to get through. But some days are harder than others, don’t you think?
While I do my best to be pleasant and a nice person, it is not always easy. Sometimes my mood is so foul, it’s extra hard. The best and most ideal solution would be to stay home, but I can’t always stay home. It can be a struggle to get through a day at work when I am moody and grouchy, but sometimes I have to.
The way I am perceived at work is very important. At work, my goal is to present a professional, approachable persona. So I have taught myself how to get through the day when I am in a bad mood (even a terrible mood), and I have to go to work. Which brings me back to the morning I spilled the coffee and had the wardrobe malfunction and the… oh, you remember.
I made it to my job, and I focused on maintaining my composure when I got there. Focusing on how I wanted to present myself makes being in a bad mood at work easier. I found that I was in a better mood even before the day is over.
When I got to the office, I said good morning. I decided, on lousy mood days, I don’t have to say anything besides work related things after I say good morning. During bad moods, it’s best not to speak and wait it out. Things said while in a bad mood could become part of the office gossip, and no one wants that.
Usually, when I am in a bad mood, the last thing I want to do is be engaging. I want to be alone. I’m sure I could sit at my desk and not interact more than necessary. My energy would clarify I do not want to interact. But behavior like that does not contribute to a pleasant environment. Especially since I have a shared and open office space. When my workmates want to talk, and I am moody and grumpy, I listen, nod, and smile. Even though I resist at first, forcing myself to smile always improves my mood. I am talkative, so when I don’t talk a lot, I am questioned about my silence. I say I have a lot of work to do. Then we all can get back to work, and I won’t have to feel like I’m being negative and sucking the energy out of the room.
Bad mood or not, I have a responsibility not to spread negative energy.
So on bad days, I use my lunch break to have a fulfilling moment during the day. What I may find fulfilling can vary based on the weather, the severity of my mood, my budget. Sometimes I go out for coffee and read my favorite blogs and visit my favorite websites, or I write in my journal.
Maintaining composure is important at work. The consequences of succumbing to a bad mood can be disastrous. My mood always changes, yours too, but things always seem different after I lift a bad mood. I don’t want my mood to take over, and I never want to do or say something I will regret because I was in a bad mood.
You know what I’m saying, right?
Anyway, until the next time.